if you’re a mama, you know all about the massive transition to motherhood. some of us jump right in, immerse ourselves in all things playdates, diaper creams, and homemade baby food. the master schedulers who somehow do our hair and workout every day, still managing to have a coffee with a non-mama-related-girlfriend a couple times a week.
others of us are more of a slow burn. our yoga pants are basically fused to our bodies, we have a better relationship with the Starbucks barista than any mama at our kid’s play gym, and we haven’t taken an uninterrupted shower in two years. getting a haircut is equivalent to a 5-day vacation and we don’t even know what our pre-mamahood friends look like, let alone what’s happening in their lives.
then there are those of you who will read this blog, swear to never remove your IUD, recommit to being the “cool aunt”, and raise an amazing show dog someone will make a documentary about. that’s cool too. let’s be friends.
i think i’m somewhere in between. most of us are. and since emerging from the “mommy closet“ i’ve gotten in the habit of giving myself ALL the breaks. reminding myself there is no magic standard of a “good mama” and not to judge myself. and i most definitely do my best to refrain from judging another mama. and when i have a hard time — because i’m a human person AND a Southern woman — i watch this video to check myself.
somewhere in this process i was inspired to write a manifesto. pardon me, a mamafesto. based on what i’ve gathered from conversations with other mamas — and spending a little time writing my own mamahood story — i created a visual check-in for myself and for anyone else needing a little reminder that you’re doing great:
i hope this resonates with you awesomely badass, beautifully strong, immensely loved mamas. what do you think? tell me all your thoughts! would you love to see this printed on anything in particular? ’cause i’m working on some merch…
let me know all the things in the comments!